So today I was thinking about Anne and how she and Gilbert were just friends for so long. Oops, I take it back – it actually took Anne quite a while before she would really be friends with Gilbert.
But once they were friends they were “just friends” for quite a while. They don’t end up kissing at all until after Gilbert recovers from his illness, and by that point Anne has realized how much she loves him. And by that point it’s also true love, not just the desire to have a relationship with someone.
So my point is.. sometimes it really scares me when I hear how fast “couples” will kiss nowdays. First date, second date. Whatever.
Whew, not for me. I want to really know that I like the guy and get to know him well before I go kissing him. I don’t mean to be too critical of people that move faster, but I think it can be risky… It just takes me a while before I really start to feel comfortable with someone else, even just on a friendly level sometimes. I do think that it’s really important to get things in the right order too. Friendship should come first.
So that’s my two cents! Go Anne Shirley!
Wow, I’m kindof surprised at myself for being so bold about this kind of personal stuff….hmm, maybe I should delete it…Nah
December 24, 2007 at 10:11 am
Anne Shirley is one of my favorite literary characters. The struggles she had with Gilbert allowed each to develop a needed understanding and appreciation for the virtues of the other and kissing too early would have definitely thwarted the development of their beautiful realationship. I see the same thing between Lizzy Bennet and Mr. Darcy in Pride and Predujuice, but the refreshing difference is Anne’s pure delightful childish innocence. It just makes me smile.
These classics are, I think, a great text book for relationships. Dates (especially first and second dates) don’t couples make and kisses definitely belong in the realm of committed, loving couples. Perhaps the trend that you noted is why so many Bishops of young married wards spend so much time counselling couples so that they can learn to “like” each other.
Go Anne Shirley and Gilbert and all the “real” beautiful young adults like them!
I really liked this post.
December 24, 2007 at 10:17 am
Holly, LOL, I pasted in the non-spell checked version of my comment. I know a few of your readers that will definitely enjoy seeing that.
Anyway, Merry Christmas. I wish that you were graduating soon as Heather’s work may be getting a couple openings soon.
December 28, 2007 at 12:12 pm
Janet ~ Amen to that! The struggles that Anne and Gilbert went through really made thier relationship strong. I really agree that “kisses definitely belong in the realm of committed, loving couples.” Well said.
I so enjoy Anne’s personality too.:)